See You On the Other Side

Last Saturday, I attended one of the saddest funerals I have ever experienced. Besides the deceased, the funeral director, the priest, and the two soldiers who rendered military honors, there were only four of us in the pews: Frank's son, his daughter, Monica, and me. I had just returned from a week-long conference in Washington, D.C., only hours before the service. Exhausted, I even wondered whether I should stay home, get some much-needed rest, and let Monica represent us. I am so grateful I went. I cried that day and feel loss even today.

Frank was 101 years old when the Lord called him home. He had been a faithful parishioner at my former parish, and over the years Monica and I came to love him like a grandfather. His life quietly radiated faith in Jesus Christ. Whenever he was able, he walked to church every day. During the COVID pandemic we grew especially close to him. After suffering a fall, he disappeared from church for a time, and we worried about him.

Then one Sunday he returned. He slowly entered the church, supported by his daughter. It was a beautiful sight. Frank's quiet, steadfast witness had done more than sustain his own faith—it had gently led his daughter back to Jesus Christ and to His Church. Sometimes the most powerful evangelists are not those who preach loudly, but those who simply persevere in faithful love.

When Monica and I left our former parish to begin ministry at St. Lawrence Martyr, we embraced Frank one last time. As we said goodbye, he smiled and spoke words I have never forgotten: "See you on the other side." Those words have stayed with me ever since.

As Catholics, we do not say goodbye as those without hope. Through Christ's death and Resurrection, death is not the end but a doorway to eternal life. Every time we gather around the altar and celebrate the Holy Eucharist, heaven and earth are united in Christ. We remain in communion with all who have died in His friendship. So today I say with gratitude, affection, and hope: See you on the other side, Frank. And until then, see you in the Eucharist.